Step Two: Mend ANY Relationship

Part two in a series of posts on how to mend any relationship.

In part one of this series of posts, I wrote that the first step in mending any relationship is loving the person unconditionally.  First you have to forgive him for what he did to upset you, then you decide to love him unconditionally, and finally you act on your love.

You show him love through your actions and words.

That was the first step of what my Grandma taught me about mending relationships.  Step two is difficult to do (just as step one was) but you can do it.  It is to give up your need to persuade  the other person to believe that you are right.

If you value your relationship with someone, that relationship means more to you than being right in a disagreement.  Everyone wants to defend his point of view.  Our human brains are probably programmed to defend our own point of view.  Being right is the way to avoid the sting of criticism and a way to win.

So why give up your need to be right?  If you believe in God as I do, you might give up your need to be right because God is the only Being who is right.  But there is also another reason to give up your need to be right:  It feels good.

Are you struggling in your marriage?   Give up your need to be right in the other person’s eyes, and you will struggle less.  When you struggle less, you will feel peace and happiness and contentment because you brought about this change. You will feel good.

The need to be right in someone else’s eyes in any relationship feeds negativity.  You know what you believe in your heart and the other person does not need to believe the same way you do.  He is his own person.  So if you want to have a positive relationship, stop trying to convince him you are right and accept him for who he is.

Just give up your need to be right in the other person’s eyes.

Let the encouraging words in these near a river posts help you

soar like an eagle above life’s storms.

Why do people “fall out of love“?

You can be closer to those you love.

Here is step three to mending any relationship…

Improve your relationships by  listening more than you speak!

If you enjoyed this post, remember that BJ writes children’s books.

Her encouraging children’s eagle

near a river common core reading book

is available on Amazon.com and Barnesandnoble.com.

Buy BJ’s near a river encouraging eagle reading book

for a child you care about today!