Yes, you can help stop hurting in this world!
Budda was walking down the street one day when an angry young man approached him. The angry young man said that Budda should not be teaching others. Budda asked the angry young man a question about a gift. He asked, “If you give someone a gift and he refuses your gift, who owns the gift? The startled young man replied that he himself would own the gift.
If someone gives you anger and you do not accept it, he keeps his anger and you keep your peace. Keeping your peace enables you to remain in control of your life, happy, less depressed, and less anxious.
How do you respond when someone acts angry toward you or insults you? Does your response hurt or help your well-being?
When someone acts angry toward you, it is natural to be insulted. However, this response hurts your well-being, can cause you to feel more depressed or anxious, and does not enable you to live in peace.
You do not have to accept anyone’s anger. You can continue to treat the him lovingly.
I continue to treat angry people lovingly by:
- Putting myself in the angry person’s shoes.
- Telling myself that the angry person is hurting.
- Immediately forgiving him or her.
- Thinking of him or her as a child of God who deserves my love instead of my anger in return.
- Telling myself that responding in kind will only hurt me. I do my best to not respond in kind.
When someone treats others angrily or insults them, who do you think he is hurting the most? He is hurting himself the most. He is making himself feel more angry and depressed and anxious.
Because I care about others, I do not encourage such behavior. I refuse to respond in kind. I also tell others that if they do not treat me with respect, I will not communicate with them. That I will only communicate with them when they can treat me with respect.
Being loving means to not allow someone to hurt themselves or anyone else!
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You can help stop hurting in this world! Protect your own emotional well-being and the emotional well-being of others and help stop others from hurting yourself and themselves.
Simply do not respond in kind to an angry or insulting person. Also, do not allow someone to continue to treat you with disrespect.
Parents, do you want your children to be emotionally healthy adults? If so, role model this behavior and tell your children why you act the way you act.
Soar like an eagle over life’s storms! Stop hurting.
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