{"id":11906,"date":"2018-07-02T14:00:32","date_gmt":"2018-07-02T16:00:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.nearariver.com\/?p=11906"},"modified":"2026-09-10T11:22:19","modified_gmt":"2026-09-10T15:22:19","slug":"be-a-jerk-near-a-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/be-a-jerk-near-a-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words\/","title":{"rendered":"How Not to Be a JERK"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 10pt;\"><em>Have you ever wondered how someone can learn to not be a jerk?<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Want to know if others think you are a jerk or not?\u00a0 There is a the psychological spectrum that will tell you.<\/p>\n<h4>If you are a jerk, you probably do not even know you are offending people. Here are some characteristics of a jerk.<\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>Jerks kiss up to those above them, like a boss, and disrespect on those who are not above them.<\/li>\n<li>They rarely see their behavior for what it is. Since they do not care about what others think about them, they do not perceive that others view them negatively and they do not experience shame.<\/li>\n<li>Jerks do not help others and do not care about how others feel.\u00a0 Thus, they do not care about all family members, either. Because they do not care how others feel, they lie and hurt others with their lies.<\/li>\n<li>Test your jerk status by looking around you and describing the people you see. If you see stupid people who are beneath you and do not deserve your time, you probably fall on the jerk end of the spectrum. Also, ask yourself to describe your family members.\u00a0 You may be a jerk to the family members whom you perceive as having no value and whom you put down, condemn, and criticize.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4>Suspect you may fall in the jerk end of the spectrum? Do you want to become a nice sweetheart?<\/h4>\n<p>Do these two things.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Look for the value in every person around you and the value in every member of your family. Therefore, instead of seeing the janitor as an uneducated cleaning person, perhaps you could consider the value in what this person does\u2014how his or her efforts improve the lives of everyone around. Also, instead of seeing your sibling as a negative person, you could look for his or her good attributes.<\/li>\n<li>Constantly look for opportunities to make others\u2019 lives better and remember that always being honest makes others&#8217; lives better!\u00a0 Thus, put yourself in others\u2019 shoes and ask yourself what you can do to improve their lives.\u00a0 Start practicing this on your family members.\u00a0 If a family member has any health or other issues, do everything you can within your power to help.\u00a0 Then do the same thing with people outside of your family.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Any person can learn not to be a jerk if he or she wants to!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Let the\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/encouraging\" slimstat=\"5\">encouraging words<\/a>\u00a0in these\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/river\" data-slimstat=\"5\">near\u00a0a\u00a0river<\/a>\u00a0posts help you<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">soar like an\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/eagle\" slimstat=\"5\">eagle<\/a>\u00a0above life\u2019s storms.<\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/reduce-stress-eagle-bj-rae-near-river-encouraging-words\/\">Stressed by your life?<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Been blessed with true sight?<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/expectations-near-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-encouragement-words\/\">What is YOUR biggest accomplishment?<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/beat-heat-near-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words\/\">Keep your utility bills down even in the summer heat.<\/a><\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">If you enjoyed this post, remember that BJ writes\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/children\" data-slimstat=\"5\">children\u2019s<\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/book\" data-slimstat=\"5\">books<\/a>.<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Her\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/encouraging\" slimstat=\"5\">encouraging<\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/children\" data-slimstat=\"5\">children\u2019s<\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/eagle\" slimstat=\"5\">eagle<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><u><\/u><u><a href=\"https:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/river\" data-slimstat=\"5\">near\u00a0a\u00a0river<\/a><\/u>\u00a0common core\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.collinsdictionary.com\/dictionary\/english\/reading-book\" data-slimstat=\"5\">reading book<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">is available on\u00a0Amazon.com\u00a0and\u00a0Barnesandnoble.com.<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Buy BJ\u2019s\u00a0<u><\/u><u><a href=\"https:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/river\" data-slimstat=\"5\">near\u00a0a\u00a0river<\/a><\/u>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/encouraging\" slimstat=\"5\">encouraging\u00a0<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/eagle\" slimstat=\"5\">eagle\u00a0<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.collinsdictionary.com\/dictionary\/english\/reading-book\" data-slimstat=\"5\">reading book<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">for a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/child\" slimstat=\"5\">child<\/a>\u00a0you care about today!<\/h4>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever wondered how someone can learn to not be a jerk? Want to know if others think you are a jerk or not?\u00a0 There is a the psychological spectrum that will tell you. If you are a jerk, <a href=\"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/be-a-jerk-near-a-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words\/\"> Read more&#8230;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11914,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,133],"tags":[1588,3390,77,1271,1269,1328,1334,1270,1329,1337,1714,1332,1321,3392,12,1331,1330,1320,1273,1322,1302,1274,1323,1325,1326,1324,19,1275,1319,1318,716,3391,1327,1336,1335,1268,1333,297,1299],"class_list":["post-11906","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-articles","category-successful-bj-rae","tag-common-core-eagle-reading-book","tag-be-a-jerk","tag-bj-rae","tag-books-for-children","tag-books-for-kids","tag-child-eagle-reading-book","tag-childrens-book","tag-childrens-books","tag-childrens-eagle-reading-book","tag-childrens-reading-book","tag-common-core-book","tag-common-core-reading-book","tag-core-reading-book","tag-dont-be-a-jerk","tag-eagle","tag-eagle-book-for-child","tag-eagle-child-book","tag-eagle-children-book","tag-eagle-childrens-book","tag-eagle-core-reading-book","tag-eagle-kid-book","tag-eagle-kids-book","tag-eagle-reading-book","tag-eagle-reading-book-for-child","tag-eagle-reading-book-for-children","tag-eagle-reading-book-for-kids","tag-encouragement","tag-encouraging","tag-encouraging-childrens-book","tag-encouraging-kids-book","tag-encouraging-words","tag-how-not-to-be-a-jerk","tag-kid-eagle-reading-book","tag-kid-reading-book","tag-kids-book","tag-kids-books","tag-reading-book","tag-soar-like-an-eagle","tag-words-of-encouragement"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11906","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11906"}],"version-history":[{"count":20,"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11906\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20946,"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11906\/revisions\/20946"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11914"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11906"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11906"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11906"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}