{"id":2471,"date":"2017-07-05T15:48:48","date_gmt":"2017-07-05T20:48:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nearariver.com\/?p=2471"},"modified":"2026-09-10T11:22:58","modified_gmt":"2026-09-10T15:22:58","slug":"angry-near-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/angry-near-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words\/","title":{"rendered":"Please Don’t Be Angry!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Don’t be angry.\u00a0 Anger only makes your life worse!<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Anger makes anxiety worse<\/a>. When suppressed, it also causes depression.<\/a>\u00a0 It disrupts relationships and causes health problems such as high blood pressure, heart problems, headaches, skin disorders, and digestive issues.\u00a0 It is also linked to violent behaviors<\/a>.<\/p>\n

So anger causes many problems today.\u00a0 It is important to manage it before it manages to land you in legal trouble, like it has platinum rapper Cardi B. But how can it be managed?<\/p>\n

Identify anger triggers, and then control your reactions to them.<\/h4>\n

Keep an anger journal. Write down what happened before you began to feel angry.\u00a0 Write down how you act when you begin to feel angry.\u00a0 Do you clench your fist or your teeth or speak louder? Make a list of your anger triggers.\u00a0 Simply being aware of what your triggers are will help you manage your anger.<\/p>\n

After you identify your anger triggers, write down what you can do instead of responding to your triggers.\u00a0 Have at least three alternative coping options for every trigger.<\/p>\n

Learn effective communication strategies.<\/h4>\n

Research has linked poor communication skills and anger issues.<\/p>\n

If you struggle to control you anger and do not know how to express yourself effectively, perhaps you might benefit from learning communication skills.<\/p>\n

Exercise.<\/h4>\n

Exercise provides an outlet for anger and triggers the release of feel-good brain chemicals.<\/p>\n

Because I like the feel good chemicals my brain releases when I exercise, my goal is to walk 10 miles a day.\u00a0 When I cannot walk, I feel frustrated.<\/p>\n

Visualize peace.<\/h4>\n

When you first begin to notice your anger, visualize peace by imagining each breath you take is an ocean wave or a breeze rustling the trees.\u00a0 Imagine you are speaking softly and calmly with others.<\/p>\n

Visualizing will diminish your anger reflex.<\/p>\n

Hug someone!<\/h4>\n

Research shows that hugging reduces stress and depression and anxiety<\/a>.\u00a0 Hugging others instead of saying unkind words will benefit both you and them!<\/p>\n

Laugh!<\/h4>\n

It is very hard to be angry and laugh at the same time.\u00a0 So laugh away your anger<\/a>!\u00a0 Think of the funniest thing that has ever happened to you or watch a comedian.<\/p>\n

Get professional help if you need it.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

If you cannot reduce your anger on your own, you might want to consider getting professional help to do this.\u00a0 You might need medication for depression or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.<\/p>\n

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My ex-husband has a severe anger problem and is bipolar.\u00a0 His anger has destroyed his career and his relationships with friends and family.\u00a0 Sadly, it will probably shorten his life.\u00a0 After many years of not coping with his anger issue, he developed a serious heart problem.<\/p>\n

I am not angry with him.\u00a0 I forgive him for everything he did to me.\u00a0 But I cannot help him with the damage his anger has done and continues to do to his own person. \u00a0He does not believe he has an anger problem and will not get help for the underlying cause of many of his issues.<\/p>\n

I hope you are not like my ex-husband.\u00a0 If you, your child, or any other loved one has any indication of an anger problem, I hope you get the help you or your loved one needs.<\/p>\n

Parents, never forget that your children copy your behavior, not what you tell them to do.\u00a0 If you do not control your anger, they may not control theirs.<\/p>\n

Remember that controlling you anger will enable you to be more successful in life.\u00a0 Anger interferes with successful relationships and careers.<\/p>\n

Always remember that showing others love instead of anger can change the world around you.\u00a0 Be a world changer and show patience and love to others instead of anger!<\/p>\n

Cope with life\u2019s storms calmly. Don’t be angry.<\/p>\n

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soar like an\u00a0eagle<\/a>\u00a0above life\u2019s storms.<\/h4>\n

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Make good decisions…<\/a><\/h4>\n

Communicate effectively…<\/a><\/h4>\n

Keep your anxiety under control…<\/a><\/h4>\n

And you will feel much less depressed…<\/a><\/h4>\n

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