{"id":2525,"date":"2017-07-10T10:41:29","date_gmt":"2017-07-10T15:41:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nearariver.com\/?p=2525"},"modified":"2026-09-10T11:23:09","modified_gmt":"2026-09-10T15:23:09","slug":"lessons-learned-life-near-river-bj-rae-eagle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/lessons-learned-life-near-river-bj-rae-eagle\/","title":{"rendered":"Lessons Learned from Life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 10pt;\"><em>What have you learned about your life along the way?<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-2533\" title=\"Encouragement to heed these lessons learned from life on near a river.\" src=\"http:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/simon-infamous-email-300x223.jpg\" alt=\"lessons learned\" width=\"513\" height=\"381\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/simon-infamous-email-300x223.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/simon-infamous-email-600x446.jpg 600w, https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/simon-infamous-email-768x571.jpg 768w, https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/simon-infamous-email-1024x761.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/simon-infamous-email.jpg 1500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 513px) 100vw, 513px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Do you regret how hard your life has been? Or do you think about what you have learned from your life?<\/p>\n<p>I think about what I have learned from my life. I am only half way through my life, but I have learned a great deal along the way.<\/p>\n<h4>Life is not fair<\/h4>\n<p>If life were fair, my own life would have been different.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I would have been loved by my mother.<\/li>\n<li>My ex-husband would not have beaten me up and caused me lots of health issues.<\/li>\n<li>My brother would not have committed suicide.<\/li>\n<li>I would not have needed over a dozen painful surgeries.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Life simply is not fair but\u00a0I can survive and succeed anyway!<\/p>\n<h4><a href=\"http:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/?s=be+kind\">Keep being kind to others.<\/a><\/h4>\n<p>I have always tried to help others and be kind to everyone, even those who have treated me unkindly. Including my Mother, my ex-husband, and others.<\/p>\n<p>My Grandmother taught me to always be kind to others. \u00a0She also taught me that my kindness will eventually return to me.\u00a0 She was right.\u00a0 The first almost 50 years of my life were miserable and depressing.\u00a0 Many times I did not want to live anymore.\u00a0 But I kept being kind to others and now my life is turning out pretty good.\u00a0 Now I have a peaceful, happy home with a husband who loves me and two adorable dogs.<\/p>\n<h4><a href=\"http:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/?s=persist\">Never give up!<\/a><\/h4>\n<p>Grandma had a large garden that covered several acres.\u00a0 She constantly had to work with it to produce her vegetables and fruits.\u00a0 She had to constantly pull weeds and work in her garden until every bone in her body ached.\u00a0 But she never gave up.\u00a0\u00a0 And her garden always produced great results in the end.<\/p>\n<p>Her example taught me to never give up.<\/p>\n<p>I have never given up and had to work very hard to become a published writer.\u00a0 I had to overcome very unprofessional issues with Next Century Publishing,<br \/>\na sister company to Rebel Press. Next Century Publishing kept failing to meet their own deadlines for publishing my book. The chief editor, Simon Presland, actually sent me an email using the f-word in a sentence that blamed me for their delay in getting my book launched.\u00a0 Because this was such an unbelievable event, I included a picture of his email at the top of this post.<\/p>\n<p>Simon&#8217;s email made me more determined to publish the book.<\/p>\n<p>I did get it published with another publisher. I am proud of the fact that I persisted.<\/p>\n<h4>Help others and keep busy!<\/h4>\n<p>My grandmother always helped others as much as she could and kept busy.<\/p>\n<p>Every day of my life, I help others. I try to help at least three people a day and try to keep busy.<\/p>\n<p>When I was a young child and my Mother and her husband fought continually and fiercely, I did what Grandma did.\u00a0 I took my tape recorder and flashlight and books on tape into the back of a closet and taught myself to read.\u00a0 I felt happy when I spent time with books.\u00a0 Spending time reading helped me to feel like I was doing something positive.<\/p>\n<h4><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/home\/happy-day-every-day-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words\/\">Focus on the positives!<\/a><\/h4>\n<p>Grandma always focused on the positives. \u00a0Even when Grandpa had to go to a nursing home and she missed him terribly, she thought about what was good in her life.<\/p>\n<p>I do my best to copy her every day of my life. \u00a0Focusing on the positives helps reduce depression and anxiety and PTSD.<\/p>\n<p>It also gives me a reason to keep trying my best and encourages me to continue to believe that something else good is around the corner.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>What have you learned about life from your own experiences?\u00a0 If you think about it, you have probably learned a great deal just like I have.<\/p>\n<p>Soar like an <a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/eagle\">eagle<\/a> over life\u2019s storms.\u00a0 Instead of regretting your past, think about what you have learned from it!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Let the\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/encouraging\" slimstat=\"5\">encouraging words<\/a>\u00a0in these\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/river\" slimstat=\"5\">near\u00a0a\u00a0river<\/a>\u00a0posts help you<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">soar like an\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/eagle\" slimstat=\"5\">eagle<\/a>\u00a0above life\u2019s storms.<\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/miraculous-power-near-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words\/\">You have a\u00a0 great power&#8230;<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/dreading-something-future-near-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words\/\">Dreading something in your future?<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Waiting for your circumstances to change?<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/category\/communicate-effectively-near-river-bj-rae-eagle\/\">Improve your life with effective communication.<\/a><\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">If you enjoyed this post, remember that BJ writes\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/children\" data-slimstat=\"5\">children\u2019s<\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/book\" data-slimstat=\"5\">books<\/a>.<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Her\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/encouraging\" slimstat=\"5\">encouraging<\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/children\" data-slimstat=\"5\">children\u2019s<\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/eagle\" slimstat=\"5\">eagle<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><u><a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/river\" slimstat=\"5\">near\u00a0a\u00a0river<\/a><\/u>\u00a0<u><\/u>common core\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.collinsdictionary.com\/dictionary\/english\/reading-book\" data-slimstat=\"5\">reading book<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">is available on\u00a0Amazon.com\u00a0and\u00a0Barnesandnoble.com.<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Buy BJ\u2019s\u00a0<u><a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/river\" slimstat=\"5\">near\u00a0a\u00a0river<\/a><\/u>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/encouraging\" slimstat=\"5\">encouraging\u00a0<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/eagle\" slimstat=\"5\">eagle\u00a0<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.collinsdictionary.com\/dictionary\/english\/reading-book\" data-slimstat=\"5\">reading book<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">for a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/child\" slimstat=\"5\">child<\/a>\u00a0you care about today!<\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What have you learned about your life along the way? 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