{"id":2670,"date":"2017-07-22T17:25:30","date_gmt":"2017-07-22T22:25:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nearariver.com\/?p=2670"},"modified":"2026-09-10T11:48:33","modified_gmt":"2026-09-10T15:48:33","slug":"listen-more-than-talk-successful-relationships-bj-rae-near-a-river-eagle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/listen-more-than-talk-successful-relationships-bj-rae-near-a-river-eagle\/","title":{"rendered":"Succeed in All Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"

Listen more than you talk to have successful relationships!<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

How can you succeed in all relationships?\u00a0 You can listen more than you talk.<\/p>\n

Talking more than listening hurts all relationships.\u00a0 Relationships with family members, friends, coworkers, your boss.<\/p>\n

No one cares to know what you think or feel unless he knows you care about him and what he has to say first.\u00a0 And actively listening to what your companion is saying shows you care about what him and what he is saying.<\/p>\n

Ted Koppel believed his success in the media should be attributed to the fact that he listened more than he talked.\u00a0 His basic interviewing technique was simple. \u00a0Ask a question.\u00a0 Get an answer.\u00a0 Ask another unrelated question.\u00a0 Get another answer.\u00a0 Continue until the next commercial break.\u00a0 Then ask a follow up question based on what he had heard.\u00a0 Then he listened more and honored his guest with his rapt attention.<\/p>\n

Ted Koppel also believed that most of us have forgotten how to listen to each other.\u00a0 Unfortunately, he is right. \u00a0Too many of us talk and interrupt more than we listen.<\/p>\n

If you want successful relationships in all areas of your life, practice active listening!<\/p>\n

Here are the steps to actively listen to another person.<\/p>\n

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  1. Invite your companion to sit down. Sitting down communicates that you have time to deal with the issue at hand and really communicate.<\/li>\n
  2. Show your companion you are not distracted. Turn off all cell phones and other electronic gadgets. Look the other person in the eye. \u00a0 This shows you are only interested in the other person at this time, that you are not distracted.\u00a0 Mention a point of common ground or a common interest.\u00a0 For example, you could say to your spouse, \u201cWe have had trouble getting things done around the house lately.\u00a0 Do you have any ideas to resolve this?\u201d Do not use the word “you” at the beginning of sentences.\u00a0 Use the pronoun \u201cI\u201d in \u201cI Statements\u201d.<\/li>\n
  3. When your companion finishes talking, ask a follow up question that relates to what he or she told you. If your spouse has just told you that you do not clean or cook often enough, you could reply, \u201cI hear you saying that I do not clean or cook enough. Is this right?”. \u00a0Keep repeating this process until your companion agrees that you have understood what he or she has communicated.<\/li>\n
  4. After you have understood the issues from your companion\u2019s point of view, ask for ideas to fix the problem. Then add your own ideas.\u00a0 A written schedule for cooking and chores, perhaps?\u00a0 A google calendar reminder that something needs to be done, perhaps?<\/li>\n
  5. After you have both communicated your ideas for fixing the problem, you might want to take a break and think about the possible solutions. You might want to agree that both of you will come back together with your top two choices for solutions and figure out how you will fix the problem.\u00a0 When you come back to discuss the issue again, start over with number one on this list.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    The rate of relationship failure is far too high in the US and in the world. \u00a0Relationships with bosses, coworkers, friends, significant others, and children all fail too often. Listening more than talking is one simple way to have more successful relationships.<\/p>\n

    When you are tempted to interrupt the other person, just imagine your life without this person in it. That mental picture should cause you to not interrupt and listen.<\/p>\n

    Parents, demonstrate active listening to your children.\u00a0 If you do this from the time they are small, they will grow up and be active listeners themselves.\u00a0 And they will have an easier time with relationships throughout their lives.<\/p>\n

    Remember that highly successful people are good listeners. \u00a0They listen more than they talk!<\/p>\n

    Soar like an eagle<\/a> over life\u2019s storms.\u00a0 Listen more than you talk!<\/p>\n

    N.B.–This may not work with a dysfunctional person. \u00a0A dysfunctional person has issues unique to himself that prevent him from having successful relationships.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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