{"id":760,"date":"2017-03-19T19:03:15","date_gmt":"2017-03-20T00:03:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nearariver.com\/?p=760"},"modified":"2026-09-10T11:23:10","modified_gmt":"2026-09-10T15:23:10","slug":"good-judgment-near-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/good-judgment-near-river-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words\/","title":{"rendered":"About Good Judgment"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center; padding-left: 30px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 10pt;\"><em>Strategies for teaching your child to use good judgment.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-5585 size-medium\" title=\"near a river encouraging good judgment bj rae eagle\" src=\"https:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/use-good-judgment-300x275.jpg\" alt=\"near a river encouragement good judgment bj rae eagle\" width=\"300\" height=\"275\" srcset=\"https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/use-good-judgment-300x275.jpg 300w, https:\/\/bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/use-good-judgment.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>We all know that children must learn to use good judgment to be successful. But\u00a0<em>how<\/em> do we teach children to do this?<\/p>\n<p>Research shows that treating your child kindly from birth begins the development of good judgment. Children whose parents treat them kindly feel good about themselves while children whose parents treat them otherwise usually do not. Those who feel good about themselves use good judgment more often than people who feel badly about themselves.<\/p>\n<p>Here are some guidelines for teaching children to use good judgment as they grow up.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<h4>\u00a0Give your child opportunities to make choices even before he can speak.<\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You should begin with small choices like choosing which shirt to wear. If you let your child choose which shirt to wear, you must allow your child to wear the shirt he chose even if it does not match. Let your child practice making decisions as early as possible.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<h4>Set clear boundaries for your child.<\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Let him know the areas in which he makes decisions and the areas you control.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<h4>Talk with your child about the decisions he is making,<\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It is important to address the implications of your child&#8217;s decisions, and how his decisions worked out.<\/p>\n<p>Start these conversations with questions or statements that encourage him to think about his decisions. \u201cHow will you decide what to play when Alex comes over to play today?\u201d. Or, \u201cI wonder if you will play what Alex wants to play today\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>After your child has made a decision, start conversations with similar questions and statements. \u201cI know you and Alex do not always play nicely together\u201d.\u00a0 Or, \u201cAren\u2019t you glad that Alex came over to play today?\u201d.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<h4>Tell your child how and why you make decisions even when he is very small.<\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You might say to your young child, \u201cWe should stay inside today. It is\u00a0cold outside\u201d.\u00a0 Or, \u201dI will make a salad for dinner. We need to eat healthy foods.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>5. Give him control over his own decisions as he is ready to control them.<\/p>\n<p>A child younger than 12 months can decide which shirt to wear, but a 13 year-old can make many more decisions on his own.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Expect your child to make some bad decisions. <\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Help him to consider how things could have turned out differently. Never say \u201cI told you so!\u201d Instead, start these conversations gently. \u201cWhat choices did you consider?\u201d Or, \u201cI wonder what would have happened if you had made a different choice\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<h4>Give your child responsible role models to emulate.<\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Make responsible choices yourself. Surround your child with others who make responsible choices also, and take him to church so he can\u00a0learn good values.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>You can enable your child to use good judgment. Start when he is young. Continue teaching him to make good decisions throughout his life. He will be much more successful in life if he learns to make good, responsible decisions from early childhood.<\/p>\n<p>Change the world one child at a time! Teach children to use \u00a0good judgment and make the world a better place for everyone.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Let the\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/encouraging\" slimstat=\"5\">encouraging words<\/a>\u00a0in these\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/river\">near\u00a0a\u00a0river<\/a>\u00a0posts help you<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">soar like an\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/eagle\" slimstat=\"5\">eagle<\/a>\u00a0above life\u2019s storms.<\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/nearariver\/decision-near-a-river-bj-rae-encouraging-words-eagle\/\">Everyone must make this decision for himself or herself.<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/home\/good-things-come-wait-encouraging-words-bj-rae-eagle\/\">Good things do come to those who are patient.<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bobbiejrae.com\/home\/keeping-promise-bj-rae-eagle-encouraging-words\/\">Always do your best to\u00a0keep your promises.<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Love to shop online and save money?<\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">If you enjoyed this post, remember that BJ writes\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/children\" data-slimstat=\"5\">children\u2019s<\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/book\" data-slimstat=\"5\">books<\/a>.<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Her\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/encouraging\" slimstat=\"5\">encouraging<\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/children\" data-slimstat=\"5\">children\u2019s<\/a>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/eagle\" slimstat=\"5\">eagle<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><u><a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/river\">near\u00a0a\u00a0river<\/a><\/u>\u00a0<u><\/u>common core\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.collinsdictionary.com\/dictionary\/english\/reading-book\" data-slimstat=\"5\">reading book<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">is available on\u00a0Amazon.com\u00a0and\u00a0Barnesandnoble.com.<\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Buy BJ\u2019s\u00a0<u><a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/river\">near\u00a0a\u00a0river<\/a><\/u>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/encouraging\" slimstat=\"5\">encouraging\u00a0<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/eagle\" slimstat=\"5\">eagle\u00a0<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.collinsdictionary.com\/dictionary\/english\/reading-book\" data-slimstat=\"5\">reading book<\/a><\/h4>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">for a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.cambridge.org\/us\/dictionary\/english\/child\" slimstat=\"5\">child<\/a>\u00a0you care about today!<\/h4>\n<h4><\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><\/h4>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Strategies for teaching your child to use good judgment. 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